You’re determined to own a piece of the wild, but a wolf is
out of the question because they are either restricted or illegal in your
area, or just not practical for your space or lifestyle.
Maybe you did your homework and want to get some northern breed experience before getting a wolfdog, which I highly recommend.
It’s also common for wolfdog rescues to recommend alternate breeds to fill the gap between the need for a wolf and reality, but their good intentions to protect wolfdogs backfires for breeds like huskies, malamutes, and other wolfy lookalikes.
Chances are you can get the look you crave, attached to a dog you can live with in your home. You will have the most success if you take your time and do quite a bit of soul searching.
Household Deal Breakers
Everyone has a tolerance threshold when it comes to what is (and
what is not) acceptable when it comes to sanitation, behavior, and personality.
Most northern breed dog owners will admit to having a very high tolerance to dog hair being a food group in their home. Husky owners often accept that the intelligence and stubborn nature of their dogs makes them more like annoying roommates than faithful pets. And akita people learn to skirt around the issues of their loyal family dog being a jerk when it comes to strange dogs and humans.
The point is, when picking a dog do your best to not only know the traits of the breed/breeds (if a mix) but also know the tolerance thresholds of everyone in the home.
After years without a dog, I was ready for one, but I was I married and had kids. I knew my husband didn’t care for dogs, so he definitely didn’t want a needy lab dropping wet balls in his lap. We traveled a lot, we were active outdoors year round, and I was a jogger.
Huskies being aloof, yet active, adaptable, and small enough to be allowed in the (below 45 pound hotel limit) made the choice easy for me.
But not so fast, I knew I would be the sole caretaker, so it was also up to me to make sure I did everything in my power to “fit” a husky into my family which leads us to…
Sacrifices and Adjustments
Most northern breed dog owners will admit to having a very high tolerance to dog hair being a food group in their home. Husky owners often accept that the intelligence and stubborn nature of their dogs makes them more like annoying roommates than faithful pets. And akita people learn to skirt around the issues of their loyal family dog being a jerk when it comes to strange dogs and humans.
The point is, when picking a dog do your best to not only know the traits of the breed/breeds (if a mix) but also know the tolerance thresholds of everyone in the home.
After years without a dog, I was ready for one, but I was I married and had kids. I knew my husband didn’t care for dogs, so he definitely didn’t want a needy lab dropping wet balls in his lap. We traveled a lot, we were active outdoors year round, and I was a jogger.
Huskies being aloof, yet active, adaptable, and small enough to be allowed in the (below 45 pound hotel limit) made the choice easy for me.
But not so fast, I knew I would be the sole caretaker, so it was also up to me to make sure I did everything in my power to “fit” a husky into my family which leads us to…
Sacrifices and Adjustments
“He crapped in the hall again! He ate my favorite stuffed animal! He stole my lunch right off the table! YOUR dog chewed a hole my backpack… the couch… the wall.”
See how easily THE dog to become YOUR dog.
Bottom line, difficult breeds are likely surrendered because
the caretaker could not keep up with, or can no longer tolerate the day to day
challenges these dogs present.
While issues of destruction and training can be fixed, the
commitment of the main caretaker is the deciding factor in the successful ownership
of a family pet who can be a bit of a hard pill to swallow.
Even single owners have limitations, like time, space, and how much a neighbor or landlord will stand.
As the caregiver, consider how much you CAN, not THINK you can invest in success before committing to a known difficult breed. The dog and the entire inner circle is depending on you to make life easier for all involved.
This may mean daily vacuuming during coat blows or being the one who picks up the mess without complaint. Boredom and insufficient exercise is a major cause of anxiety and destruction, so you may have wake up an hour or two before work to run, bike, or hike with the dog before you leave. Potty training and adoption transitions may mean peeling yourself out of a warn bed on a cold night to get the dog out at 2am.
Yes, things get better after years of developing a perfect routine and getting to know how to manipulate the system for happiness, but never forget that you signed up for it.
As a side note: Kids can help, but should never be the sole caretaker of any pet, and certainly not a for a high energy, mouthy, insanely crazy, and unpredictable young northern breed.
The Happy Medium…Age
Even single owners have limitations, like time, space, and how much a neighbor or landlord will stand.
As the caregiver, consider how much you CAN, not THINK you can invest in success before committing to a known difficult breed. The dog and the entire inner circle is depending on you to make life easier for all involved.
This may mean daily vacuuming during coat blows or being the one who picks up the mess without complaint. Boredom and insufficient exercise is a major cause of anxiety and destruction, so you may have wake up an hour or two before work to run, bike, or hike with the dog before you leave. Potty training and adoption transitions may mean peeling yourself out of a warn bed on a cold night to get the dog out at 2am.
Yes, things get better after years of developing a perfect routine and getting to know how to manipulate the system for happiness, but never forget that you signed up for it.
As a side note: Kids can help, but should never be the sole caretaker of any pet, and certainly not a for a high energy, mouthy, insanely crazy, and unpredictable young northern breed.
The Happy Medium…Age
I understand the lure of puppies. They’re adorable. You want
then to grow with the kids. You think they’ll have more respect for you as a “pack
leader”.
Let’s rethink the above.
Puppies are adorable when they are small and manageable. By four months, they are mouthy and learning bite inhibition. It’s a no brainer that a puppy nip on the nose of an infant will cause panic, and I specifically trained my pup not to “kiss” because kids instinctly say “he bit me”. By eight months they are bonkers and big. Huskies are on the dangerous dogs list, not for aggression, but because zoomies will make them leap into cribs, knock toddlers off of slides, and smash into legs, wiping out bystanders.
As for being pack leader, aloof, independent, and self-serving northern breeds don’t have leaders, they have companions. Except Shepherds, they have one or dual leaders, all others need not apply without significant bonding rituals.
I always recommend adult adoption, not necessarily to save lives, but what you see is what you get.
Dogs usually begin to simmer down after five-years-old,
meaning less energy and more focus. Teaching an adult dog new tricks is by far
easier than training a puppy.
Sometimes younger dogs just have a mellow personality. Don’t overlook them either, unless you have experience, and want the full on crazy.
A good rescue will give you a bit of history, like does the dog have separation anxiety, is he an escape artist, does he tend to bite when he gets excited. Then you can ask yourself, do I have the time and resources to help this dog get over his anxiety, can I make a safe containment area for him to stay and play in, can I provide a stable, quiet home without roughhousing to keep him honest and give him chance.
However, you may not qualify for a rescue adoption because of no experience or improper fencing. But if really want something, you can work for it. Don't be discouraged. Volunteer to learn. Many rescues are desperate for walkers and fosters. At least you will have gained some knowledge about the breed, which will help you pick a shelter dog.
Understand that not all shelter dogs or rescues for adoption are broken, sometimes people lose their homes, become too sick to care for their dog, or die. And yes, people have babies, and or just give up on their dogs because circumstances have changed. None of it matters.
But, feeling sorry for a dog is impulsive, and no reason to get one. Don’t just look at a dog, see the dog. What is presented in front of you? Are you truly in love or just in like?
And always keep a check on why you really want a difficult and stunning wolfy looking breed.
Sometimes younger dogs just have a mellow personality. Don’t overlook them either, unless you have experience, and want the full on crazy.
A good rescue will give you a bit of history, like does the dog have separation anxiety, is he an escape artist, does he tend to bite when he gets excited. Then you can ask yourself, do I have the time and resources to help this dog get over his anxiety, can I make a safe containment area for him to stay and play in, can I provide a stable, quiet home without roughhousing to keep him honest and give him chance.
However, you may not qualify for a rescue adoption because of no experience or improper fencing. But if really want something, you can work for it. Don't be discouraged. Volunteer to learn. Many rescues are desperate for walkers and fosters. At least you will have gained some knowledge about the breed, which will help you pick a shelter dog.
Understand that not all shelter dogs or rescues for adoption are broken, sometimes people lose their homes, become too sick to care for their dog, or die. And yes, people have babies, and or just give up on their dogs because circumstances have changed. None of it matters.
But, feeling sorry for a dog is impulsive, and no reason to get one. Don’t just look at a dog, see the dog. What is presented in front of you? Are you truly in love or just in like?
And always keep a check on why you really want a difficult and stunning wolfy looking breed.
The Hardest Questions
True soul searching leads to the hardest question.
Why?
Why?
They Are Beautiful
I encourage all perspective dog owners to not consider looks for wanting any particular dog.
Blue eyes, beautiful markings, or wolfiness.
Looks don’t determine good companions in the human world, so why would it make a difference in dog world? I mean there are some very physically appealing human jerks out there, and some very humble, kind and sweet lookers. You can’t judge a book by a book by its cover… truest words spoken.
Good Times
I encourage all perspective dog owners to not consider looks for wanting any particular dog.
Blue eyes, beautiful markings, or wolfiness.
Looks don’t determine good companions in the human world, so why would it make a difference in dog world? I mean there are some very physically appealing human jerks out there, and some very humble, kind and sweet lookers. You can’t judge a book by a book by its cover… truest words spoken.
Good Times
Of course a majority of us have had good experiences and
memories with certain dog breeds and down deep want to recapture those good
times, but just because you met one or several amazing animals, it doesn’t mean
you can replicate that experience with your own pet.
In truth, you may only know the half of it. Relationships between wolfdogs, huskies, mals, akitas, chows, elkhounds, shepherds, and difficult breeds and their owners are often heralded as phenomenal, some going as far as saying they will never have another breed.
But… none really talk about the bad times, the times they were frustrated, or even furious about the tenth shredded shoe or the scar above their lip.
I’ll share a few, but far from all.
At one time, I walk/jogged with my adolescent husky (up to two hours a day) but there was a period of time when she would stop near the end of the trail, turn and aggressively lunge at me, muzzle punching and grabbing my arms. It was always followed by wild leash zoomies. I can only assume she didn’t want the walk to end and apparently had energy to expire. It was extremely embarrassing, but eventually stopped adolecence.
I also adopted and fostered dogs who were clueless about house-training. My house stunk, but they all learned, the hardest being my “crate trained” girl who learned to live with her own waste since her former owner kept her in it all day. She also had a thing for remote controls, chewed them all until time and maturity turned her into a great friend.
Then there were the two high content wolfdogs fostered at different times, thankfully. One broke two new laptops within a week, the other removed and shredded all my curtains within ten minutes of arrival.
They were all beautiful. They all had their funny moments. I had moments when I’d say to myself, wtf… “way to fail” as a trainer. Yet, I was tolerant. I learned to live with them and they learned to live with me, eventually.
A Connection to Wolves
In truth, you may only know the half of it. Relationships between wolfdogs, huskies, mals, akitas, chows, elkhounds, shepherds, and difficult breeds and their owners are often heralded as phenomenal, some going as far as saying they will never have another breed.
But… none really talk about the bad times, the times they were frustrated, or even furious about the tenth shredded shoe or the scar above their lip.
I’ll share a few, but far from all.
At one time, I walk/jogged with my adolescent husky (up to two hours a day) but there was a period of time when she would stop near the end of the trail, turn and aggressively lunge at me, muzzle punching and grabbing my arms. It was always followed by wild leash zoomies. I can only assume she didn’t want the walk to end and apparently had energy to expire. It was extremely embarrassing, but eventually stopped adolecence.
I also adopted and fostered dogs who were clueless about house-training. My house stunk, but they all learned, the hardest being my “crate trained” girl who learned to live with her own waste since her former owner kept her in it all day. She also had a thing for remote controls, chewed them all until time and maturity turned her into a great friend.
Then there were the two high content wolfdogs fostered at different times, thankfully. One broke two new laptops within a week, the other removed and shredded all my curtains within ten minutes of arrival.
They were all beautiful. They all had their funny moments. I had moments when I’d say to myself, wtf… “way to fail” as a trainer. Yet, I was tolerant. I learned to live with them and they learned to live with me, eventually.
A Connection to Wolves
Feeling a connection to wolves is a common reason people get
wolfdogs and wolfy northern breeds.
Wolves are resilient, beautiful, and mysterious. They symbolize freedom, the wilderness, and loyalty. Wolves are misunderstood. I’m sometimes misunderstood. I feel there is a connection between wolves and humans. Wolves are like me.
All of the above statements are true, but are they really like us?
Projecting human attributes into animals is called, anthropomorphism. Okay, it makes cute videos, but sadly, anthropomorphism is the reason people abuse and punish animals, thinking they are being spiteful and rude.
Animals have their own agendas, mainly based on positive and negative experiences, and self-gratification, similar to humans, but they don’t carry the same baggage.
Wolves defend territory and resources but they don’t start wars with other wolves. Wolves don’t like conflict and will do anything to avoid it, so they have a system of respect based on yielding in submission. Dominance is fluid and situational, not an assigned personality type.
We assign wolves a divine status, but as someone said, animals are not responsible for your spiritual growth. If you have a strong connection, find a way to help them thrive in their wild environments.
Owing a wolfdog or wolfy dog will not give us the satisfaction of connecting with the wild, it will in fact will break the enchantment for many of us.
It’s difficult to connect to wolfy breeds because they are not people pleasers, and they are not easier alternatives to wolves.
Instead, take time to find a dog you know in your heart is the best match. You will both grow, and your family and loved ones
will grow to love them.
Wolves are resilient, beautiful, and mysterious. They symbolize freedom, the wilderness, and loyalty. Wolves are misunderstood. I’m sometimes misunderstood. I feel there is a connection between wolves and humans. Wolves are like me.
All of the above statements are true, but are they really like us?
Projecting human attributes into animals is called, anthropomorphism. Okay, it makes cute videos, but sadly, anthropomorphism is the reason people abuse and punish animals, thinking they are being spiteful and rude.
Animals have their own agendas, mainly based on positive and negative experiences, and self-gratification, similar to humans, but they don’t carry the same baggage.
Wolves defend territory and resources but they don’t start wars with other wolves. Wolves don’t like conflict and will do anything to avoid it, so they have a system of respect based on yielding in submission. Dominance is fluid and situational, not an assigned personality type.
We assign wolves a divine status, but as someone said, animals are not responsible for your spiritual growth. If you have a strong connection, find a way to help them thrive in their wild environments.
Owing a wolfdog or wolfy dog will not give us the satisfaction of connecting with the wild, it will in fact will break the enchantment for many of us.
It’s difficult to connect to wolfy breeds because they are not people pleasers, and they are not easier alternatives to wolves.
Instead, take time to find a dog you know in your heart is the best match. You will both grow, and your family and loved ones
will grow to love them.
Be honest and realistic with yourself, about
your lifestyle and living situation. Save everyone some heartache and save a life
without interrupting one.